I am Erica, training to qualify as a Clinical Sexologist by 2025 and my call started as a niggling feeling of discomfort that over the years grew into defiance.

So many messages... 'be yourself', 'be real', 'be sexy', 'be a slut', 'be macho', 'be sensitive', 'be gentle', ' be strong', 'be a real man', 'don’t be such a man', so many contradictions, so much confusion when judged for being yourself after being criticized for not being authentic, so many different voices declaring, shouting, whispering they know what is right for you and yet nobody but you does, even when you hide it from yourself.

I wanted to own my truth, stop being told to be 'me' but a different version of 'me' one more like everybody else. As I could not trust others to have my best interest at heart I took matters in my own hand and started a journey that is taking me through unusual and unexpected roads to study the fascinating, and surprisingly young, subject of Sexology.